The Three Modes

We as inhabitants of this world, are so fixated on owning life or experience. There are basically three modes of existence that as far as I can see make up most of "life". These are not to be confused with the birth/life/death trio.

[1] Trying to own/have new experiences.
[2] Trying to repeat (very often "good") experiences.
[3] Trying to avoid (very often "bad") experiences.
There might be a fourth class in trying to understand experience. I mean by this reflection or seeing past experience in a new way or light in order to get some clarity or invent new meaning for memories. But I think just a combo of [1] and [2].

Now, some people view death as just another [1] and these people seem to have no hard feelings. They do it's because they can no longer [1] or maybe they wanted to share their [1]'s. Or maybe they are so busy finding [1]'s they often find death "the great [1]" on their heels before they have time to prepare.

Most people find some [1]'s they like and then struggle to [2] the rest of their life, or until they are bored of the same old [2] and go looking for a [1] to own and [2] over and over again. This is stability, addiction, materialism, a lot of things. It's the mode of life we most often operate in. This is what many people would call life and it is for many. Death puts a big kink in [2], in that most see death as no longer being able to enjoy the people/stuff/sensations we like so much. No longer taking satisfaction in making for yourself the things and activities you enjoy. People being something we become very attached to, and death takes them away. I ask you, at a funeral, do we weep for the dead or for ourselves?

Thirdly ,people [3] what they determine or are taught are "bad" experiences. Ones they did not enjoy or do not wish to repeat. They are vigilant to [3], not to repeat them or even have them at all. Even without their own judgment. They are told or taught they are "bad" and thus will not engage certain experience. Obviously death is the ultimate "bad" experience, to many people, especially those consumed with [2]. Also death gets a "bad" rap; people are taught death is horrible, tragic, etc, etc..., and so they are afraid of death. And since they [3] death at all cost eventhough it's inevitable, they [3] all sorts of other things, to fool themselves they can [3] death. Laughable. ( As a side note, I'm not taking in to account the "survival instinct". That is very biological in nature and I'm talking about mental constructs, although it only takes a slightly altered view of consciosness and spirit to see that all life is really engaged in [2] )
Some people, depressed or suicidal, euthanasia, mercy killers, etc... engage death as a very effective act of [3]. And it's true to avoid bad experiences...just die. It's pretty simple.